Saturday 18 July 2020

Hi guys, well 2020 hasn't gone swell has it!

Hi guys, 2020 has been pretty awful for us but we're surviving...just!
Dad...
My Dad went out to his usual podiatry appointment in March and took a stroke. It was a mad dash to our local hospital in Kilmarnock but with each passing minute it was becoming more and more apparent he wasn't going to make it. Originally I was told it would be hours but the wee soul clung to life for another eight sad, painful, days. My sisters live in England and Spain so at least they had time to see him.
By the end of the eighth day we were just praying of a blessed release for him. He died on a sunny St. Joseph's day (March 19th) which is a comfort as St. Joseph is the patron saint of those at their end of life, we're Catholic if you hadn't guessed! I've taken some comfort in the fact he's back with my wee Mammy now but it's all still a bit raw.
SDS...
We were lucky as our SDS (Self Directed Support) care package, kicked in seamlessly so I didn't need to worry about care for Coo. Looby our P.A. came to stay with him to allow me to stay over at hospital with my Dad on those last few precious days and what a weight off my shoulders that was!
We thought the worst had passed but oh my we were in for a bit of a rough ride -
A Lockdown funeral...
Lockdown kicked in didn't it. We weren't even sure if Dad's funeral would be able to go ahead at all. We moved fast, saw our priest and Dad ,being Dad had a funeral plan all arranged with our local undertaker so thankfully after much tears and troubles - half the stuff he'd arranged in his plan could not now happen due to COVID-19 restrictions - but we did at least get a mass!
The very last one in our church before they totally closed down but no hugs and no sitting together, we couldn't even get in the family car! Immediate family only, no cords for family either, the poor cemetery workers laid Dad into his final resting place. It was all so different from two years earlier, where Mammy had a night of rest in our church, a full congregation of family and friends and a lovely funeral tea to share with our family but Dad would have understood. We did our best and at least he got his mass!
Isolating...
Fast forward four months and we're still in limbo. We're both still Isolating!
Like lots of other people with disabilities COVID-19 has reeked havoc! We're both high risk as I have RA (Rheumatiod Arthritis) I'm immune suppressed and Coo has COPD and his Epilepsy? Well any infection or raised temperature spikes his seizures crazy - he won't risk the hell of infection and seizure city he had some years back with pneumonia so we're in for the duration!

All in all 2020 has been a pretty traumatic time but with things in Scotland seeming to be heading in the right direction with suppressing the virus, hopefully we'll be coming out the other side sooner rather than later!
Lastly, a huge thank you to our wonderful NHS!
Thanks...
Dad was in the Acute Stroke Unit in Crosshouse hospital Kilmarnock and the staff were wonderful, caring and kindness itself. Without their attentiveness we would have found ourselves in such a painful and more difficult position. These caring staff really made a huge difference at what was such a very difficult time. Bless them.

Stay strong friends, never was it truer than now, only by working together we can really help one another!
Keep safe.
((hugs))
Maz x